Stages of Grief
At one point in our lives, we may experience grief or have experienced grief due to the loss of a loved one, a failed relationship or an end of one’s career. To better understand grief, we need to know the stages that one undergoes. These are denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance.
When something hard hits you, a person feels numb and is in a state of shock. As reality hits him slowly, he/she then starts to feel the emotions he/she has denied.
Anger, the second stage of grief, is an emotion that everyone of us is familiar with. It can actually give us strength and direction. It is so much easier to channel our emotions when there is someone to blame for the pain that we are feeling inside. The best way to go through it is to feel it in order to get to the pain it is covering up.
The third stage in understanding grief is bargaining. This is the stage where a person goes back to the time before the turmoil happened and asks himself what he could have done to prevent it. Thoughts such as “what if” and “if only” flood the person’s thoughts and guilt fills his mind.
Depression, the fourth stage, is a natural emotion that comes after a tragedy and must be faced. This is where you are in the present, facing all the pain. You withdraw from people and ask yourself if things will ever be the same again.
The fifth and last stage is acceptance. Once you have reached this stage, it doesn’t mean that you’re ok. Things will never be the same again but you start to have better days. You start reaching out to people and start thinking that things will be better again. You may allow yourself to enjoy life once again. Acceptance happens when you believe that life will never be the same again and you have to adjust and move on.
We can never go around grief. We have to go through these stages because the more a person avoids going through grief, the longer they stay grieving and the longer the healing process.